What To Do :-
1. Try to minimize the heartache
- Don’t be distant. Even if you don’t really feel like it, offer hugs and other appropriate signs of affection if you ex looks like she needs it. Be reassuring, not selfish.
- Find the right time to break up. Obviously, there’s never a perfect time. But right before a celebration, test, or vacation is a bad time to do it. Give yourself enough time, and try to do it when she doesn’t have anything else significant going on afterward.
- Resist the urge to argue. When someone is being broken up with, there’s a good chance they’re going to be angry. Don’t feed her anger by provoking, debating, or belittling her. Ex-lovers often say very hurtful things when they argue.
When you finally break up, you have to be prepared for anything. It could be sadness, anger, or even a lack of emotion. It’s okay to feel any and all of these emotions during a breakup. If you feel like showing emotion, don’t hold back. If the emotion isn’t there, for whatever reason, don’t force it.
- Show her that you’ve given it some thought, and offer her some facts to back it up. Don’t be aggressive or combative. When explaining the reasons for a breakup, don’t talk about other relationships. Your relationship is your own, and breaking up isn’t about comparing your relationship to anyone else’s.
- Stay there for as long as she needs an explanation. Don’t run out the door as soon as you’ve said the words “let’s break up.” Stay with her while she’s processing the information, answering any follow-up questions she may have. If you keep returning to the same questions over and over again, tell her that you think that’s happening.
If it’s appropriate, let her know why you think that she’ll make an excellent girlfriend for someone else sometime down the road. Talk about the aspects of her personality that attracted you to her in the beginning, and the traits of hers that stayed strong during the relationship. This way, she won’t feel as horrible; it could do something good for her confidence, which will probably be shaken by the breakup.
Unless you’ve decided that it’s absolutely the best to not talk after the breakup, give her the option of discussing things when the situation is a little more calm. This will give you both time to think, and may help her feel like she is also given a chance to get things off her chest.